我從以前就對大腦和心理這方面的知識有興趣. 自從生病過後, 我開始注重健康, 我的時間也變得很多, 所以我開始買一些有關大腦的書籍. 那些書有一點像教科書, 有時候需要很累人的思考能力來理解, 不過, 那些複雜的文字深深的幫助了我對自己的了解, 讓我能審視自己的生活模式和態度.
在閱讀關於大腦的書籍之前, 我從來都沒注重過大腦的重要性, 應該說我一直都知道腦部很重要, 但是沒有深刻的去理解這項原則.
對大部分的人類來講, 在日常生活裡所做的一切, 例如: 吃飯, 聊天, 運動, 人際關係和宗教信仰都是處於自發性, 並不需要特別去努力運作的事, 除非是碰到需要用到很多腦力的工作或事物, 我們才會意識到大腦的能力.
我們所做的每一件事都跟腦部有關, 如何思考, 感覺和行動, 以及如何與他人相處, 所有的行為態度和說話方式, 工作協調, 甚至婚姻的幸福都是在於大腦的管理!
在我人生裡, 我媽影響我最深. 她是我目前認識所有人裡最悲觀的一個人, 所有大小事可以不停的擔憂, 也常常無法自拔的往壞的方面想. 她常跟我說, 做人很辛苦, 要認命之類的話, 我雖然內心抗拒著她所說的一切, 不過我抗拒不了大腦的無意識學習能力.
悲觀的個性是天生遺傳也是後天教育和環境影響! 在知道這研究證明之前, 我常否認自己的做事方式像我媽, 我也沒有想過自己的思維模式會跟她差不多, 因為我和她的人生觀並不一樣, 結果沒想到, 我跟我媽在某些地方真的很像... 自從接受這一項事實後, 我媽和我的關係變得更好 (我年齡增長也是一個原因 ), 我也藉由著她來更深一步的了解自己, 我認為這也算是真正的家庭教育.
不知從何時開始, 我的大腦從以前到現在就很習慣地偏向負面的想法. 當我知道腦部可以改變, 可以讓它變得更好之後, 我下定決心要丟棄悲觀態度. 不過, 說比做容易, 我到現在還沒達成目標!
我覺得我需要重新評估自己的人生經驗, 改用比較建設性的方式來看事情, 對我來說就是往前一大步的改善, 或許再過幾年, 我不敢說完全擺脫負面想法, 不過, 至少會比現在好很多吧 !
I have been interested in the knowledge of brain and psychology since I can remember. After the cancer experience, I started to pay attention to my health, and I had a lot of spare time. I began to buy books that can teach me about human brain. They are a bit like textbooks, sometimes; it's difficult to read because it takes a lot of concentration and thinking in order to understand the information. However, those complex words helped me to comprehend myself better, and to be able to analyse my attitude and lifestyle.
Frankly, I have never paid attention to how significant a brain can be before I read those books. Although I knew that the brain is very important, but I had no intention to know more.
For most people, our actions in daily lives are automatic and spontaneous, for example: eating, talking, and doing sport, interaction with others and religion….etc. We don’t need to work hard to do those things, unless it’s a challenge we have never done before, it requires brainpower to overcome the task, and then we notice the capacity of the brain.
Everything we do is related to our brain - how we think, feel, act, and interact with others, our every behaviour, attitude and the way we do our job, even the ability of being happy in marriage.
My mother influenced me deeply since I was born. I have to say that she is the most pessimistic person I have ever met so far. She worries about every little thing (let alone the big issue), and she can't help to think of the worse. She often said to me that it’s tiring to be a human being, and I should accept my misfortune is predetermined by God (She is very religious). I resisted strongly of what she said, but I couldn’t fight against a brain’s unconscious learning ability.
The pessimistic personality is innate genetic plus acquired education and environmental impact. I know that now. However, before realizing that, I often denied that my way of doing things are a lot like my mother and I never thought that my thinking pattern was similar to hers, because our outlooks on life and personalities are different. Oh well, I was wrong. In the end, in many ways, we are very much alike!
My mom and I fight less since I accepted our similarities (Me aging has something to do with it, too!); In addition, I got to know myself better through her. I think you can count it as a real family education.
I don’t know when it started, but my brain has been accustomed to bias toward negative thoughts. When I read that our brain can change for better, I have decided to give up the pessimistic attitude. Nevertheless, it’s easier said than done. I have not yet achieved my goal.
I think what I need to do is to reassess my choices in life, to look at things by using a more constructive way, I believe that’s a huge step forward. Maybe in few years’ time, I don’t dare say that I would completely turn into an optimist, but at least it will have some improvement!